How do I post updates on social media now?

So after a year of sharing the devastating news on social media about Josef - I have now had a year of posting various memories, details about things happening in Josef's memory and also dealt with some dark issues surrounding his passing on there .  Trying to be appropriate and mindful, that although people love and care about Josef and myself, I feel I should try and limit the sad posts after this first year. 

So now I don't repost or share something that resonates - like the above pictures - but nevertheless - this is my new reality and these posts reflect how I truly feel.  I am watering down the sorrow on platforms so that friends and family are not bombarded with my overwhelm - what would they do anyway? Nobody can take this journey for me and the last thing I would want is to impact on the future happiness of those I care about, any more than I and the tragedy of losing our Josef has already done.  They want to remember him with the love and light and laughter that he brought... so I shall keep anything bleak for this blog, after all that's partially what it's for.

So then -who helps when all is lost?

When I lost Josef - nobody came from any service or organisation to offer help or guidance for bereavement - this is something which I had to source myself.  There is a gap here - which could easily be bridged.

I believe that having to find all your own help from scratch is wrong - when a parent loses a child - no matter what age, I think the Government services whom they come into contact with should signpost them to the relevant help out there.  Maybe this happens in certain circumstances - but not in my experience of losing my son in London.  The Police did not inform me of any help nor many details surrounding his passing and I had to piece together all of the details of Josef's last few days on this earth, for myself.  This was TORTURE.

You would think that as a grieving mother I would have been allocated a family liaison officer to explain exactly what had happened to him or at least furnish me with all the details of which they were aware of, but when someone is believed to have ended their own life - a Police family Liaison is not actioned.  So no face to face talk, only brief details, pick up his things and get on with it.

One year after Josef passed away I found out that after falling, he actually suffered a cardiac arrest which he died from.  As next of kin and his mother who brought him into this world - I believe it was my right to have been informed of this immediately that it was known.  I have suffered immeasurably because our country has a system which barely supports a grieving family in such circumstances as mine.

These sad and cruel lapses in care are something I would like to change... for others.